I have a bit of a problem when it comes to talking to people on the phone. If someone phones me, whether it’s my mobile or the home phone or when I was working if it was my office phone then I’m fine, I can totally answer the phone and deal with whatever the other person on the line needs or wants to talk about.
The problem comes when I’m the one that needs to make a phone call. If it’s to do something relatively small like book a dentist appointment then that’s not too bad. It’s if I’m calling someone to ask if they can do something or if I’ve got questions and need help with something – that’s when I seem to have problems.
I put off the phone call for as long as possible, which isn’t always that great if you have a job which requires you to talk on the phone. Once I’m actually talking to the person on the other end it’s not so bad, I slowly get more comfortable in the conversation so I think it’s more of the thought of talking to someone and the act of dialling the phone number which freaks me out more.
I don’t consider myself to be a particular anxious person or that much of an introvert, I like my own company but I have no problems being out in large crowds or going somewhere new. I can talk to someone face to face absolutely fine and I really don’t have a problem with public speaking and that’s something I did at work for four years at university. It’s just talking on the phone to people I have a problem with, both strangers and acquaintances but strangers especially.
I don’t know if my aversion to making phone calls is some form of social anxiety or if it’s something I just don’t like doing – I think it’s probably the later as the only thing that puts me a bit on edge is talking on the phone, every other social interaction I’m OK with. I’d hate to self-diagnose and say I have a condition, when my nervousness about phone calls is really quite small compared to what things like social anxiety really encompass.
I don’t know if it could be a “young person” thing, when you look on social media and blogs it seems like a lot of young people in their teens and twenties seem to have a problem with making phone calls. Maybe it’s something to do with young people being more reliant or better behind a computer screen? I don’t know.
Have you ever had problems with talking to people on the phone? It is a bit of problem especially as the career path I want to go on you have to be good at talking to people, not just through emails and face to face but on the phone as well. I hope it’s one of those things I can gain confidence about and “grow out” of this sort of apprehension every time I have to make a phone call.